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siannanToday was the Day of Silence. And yes, outside of social media, I did not utter a word. Which made for an interesting exchange with the UPS delivery lady, but she grokked me.
It's no secret that bisexual people like yours truly are marginalized inside and out of the greater LGBTQ community, especially when, like me, you're in a committed heterosexual relationship. I get told that I "got it easy being with a guy"*, that "you just say you're bi, but you're not really because you married a man"**, that "AH MAH GAD THERE'S NO SUCH THING U R EITHER A DYKE OR U RNT either way u r goin 2 hell"***.
When celebs, especially women, come out at bisexual they're viewed as being more exotic, more "other", as trying to inflame the passions of het men who are "into lezzie 3-ways, fuck yeah". Adrienne Curry, Anna Paquin, Megan Fox, Angelina Jolie, Drew Barrymore. Men discuss their bisexuality as being a plus because, to them, it represents that if they had a snowballs chance in hell of landing any of these women in bed, hey, they might bring a friend! ...yeah, sure, I have this lovely bridge for sale you could meet them on at sunset.
Bisexuality is not the same as polyamory. I happen to be polyamorous as well, but I don't want to have threesomes. One partner in bed at a time is all I can or want to physically handle, ever. I understand the appeal but I know I don't have the coordination. Fantasy is one thing, actual practice is another.
Bisexuality exists. I am proof right here. Here are some more examples. I don't admire all of the people featured in this video (I personally think Megan Fox is execrable as an actress and dumb as a wall, for starters), but they are or were attracted to and/or had relationships with people of both sexes.
Just like me.
*actual quote from a butch lesbian
**actual quote from a non-swishy gay man
***actual quote from a histrionic hetero moron
It's no secret that bisexual people like yours truly are marginalized inside and out of the greater LGBTQ community, especially when, like me, you're in a committed heterosexual relationship. I get told that I "got it easy being with a guy"*, that "you just say you're bi, but you're not really because you married a man"**, that "AH MAH GAD THERE'S NO SUCH THING U R EITHER A DYKE OR U RNT either way u r goin 2 hell"***.
When celebs, especially women, come out at bisexual they're viewed as being more exotic, more "other", as trying to inflame the passions of het men who are "into lezzie 3-ways, fuck yeah". Adrienne Curry, Anna Paquin, Megan Fox, Angelina Jolie, Drew Barrymore. Men discuss their bisexuality as being a plus because, to them, it represents that if they had a snowballs chance in hell of landing any of these women in bed, hey, they might bring a friend! ...yeah, sure, I have this lovely bridge for sale you could meet them on at sunset.
Bisexuality is not the same as polyamory. I happen to be polyamorous as well, but I don't want to have threesomes. One partner in bed at a time is all I can or want to physically handle, ever. I understand the appeal but I know I don't have the coordination. Fantasy is one thing, actual practice is another.
Bisexuality exists. I am proof right here. Here are some more examples. I don't admire all of the people featured in this video (I personally think Megan Fox is execrable as an actress and dumb as a wall, for starters), but they are or were attracted to and/or had relationships with people of both sexes.
Just like me.
*actual quote from a butch lesbian
**actual quote from a non-swishy gay man
***actual quote from a histrionic hetero moron
